Chandra Fredrick is the blogging genius behind Oh Lovely Day, where she writes about inspired weddings and, you know, inspires weddings. She also explores honeymoons and love and is expanding to marriage, travel, home decor, entertaining, and moms + babies in a weekly feature called Lovely Ever After (shhh, you just may see me on there soon!). As if that weren’t a full plate, she’s also one half of Gilded Rentals and sometimes still practices law. Yes, law. Blog work usually takes place at home, either when her son Charlie – whom Chandra and I have decided would be besties with my son Evan if they ever meet – is sleeping (probably 5+ hours a day/night) or when her husband can take the tot out for a couple hours at a time, which happens around three times a week. With a work week less structured than she’d like, she knows the constant effort to find balance and the search for a way not to work during every minute of her free time many of us feel.
Here’s what Chandra had to say about being a SpitfireMom.
How does being a mom influence your work?
Being a mom allowed me to be a blogger full-time. Before Charlie was born, blogging was a hobby and I worked as a lawyer full-time. After he was born, I realized how much I wanted to be home with him, and being a lawyer didn’t allow for that, but being a blogger does. However, I do sometimes feel like I’m not able to give 100% to either job (blogging or parenting), because both are essentially full time jobs that I’m trying to do at the same time. It is a hard balance. I’m less organized, less structured, but more laid back and having WAY more fun.
Do you talk about your kid with clients or potential clients?
Well, I instagram a million pictures of my kid, so my blog readers and blog sponsors are quite aware. But my business is my blog, and my blog is me. I can’t keep what I love out of it, and I love my Charlie more than anything else. Sometimes I think I should dial it down a bit, and as he gets older I’m sure I will.
We know a SpitfireMom like Chandra has tips to share, so we asked for her best time saving trick:
Multi-tasking. Delegating. And saying no sometimes. I’ve learned that I tend to take on too many things. I’ve started to say no when I need to. I’m just one person, after all.
What’s one thing you haven’t figured out?
Ha! What HAVE I figured out? Finding the time to prepare meals, keep a clean home, be creative, be a good partner, work, and be a mom is almost impossible. One thing I always have a hard time doing is finding phone time for people. I’m terrible at it. Many of my family members and friends are on east coast time, and between my limited free time and the time difference it is usually too late to ever return a phone call once I have five minutes to spare. Texts and emails – that’s how people hear from me these days.
And, if you’re a mom entrepreneur and just found out your expecting, Chandra says:
I actually did have a fellow wedding blogger ask me how it is being a blogger & a mom while she was trying to get pregnant, and this is what I told her: You’ve got a great job for a working mom. I can’t think of a better job really, because it lets me stay home and spend a lot of time with my son while he’s little. I can do it from anywhere – if we visit family or if my husband (who is an actor) gets a job and we have to travel, I can still work. It doesn’t matter that I didn’t have time to shower or put on make-up because no one sees me at work. And I’m my own boss, so if my baby was up all night teething and I need to nap during his nap, I can. The pay isn’t great and the hours are long, but the perks are off the charts.
Don’t know about you guys, but we’ve loved getting to know Chandra a little bit more. Stay tuned for all our in-person antics in a few weeks at the Alt Summit!
Heidi & Julie
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